Letting Her Know About Your Spine Fetish

Started by Death Dealer, October 14, 2021, 06:51:59 PM

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Death Dealer

Another interesting topic. We know alot here already in their minds have this spine fetish, they developed and kept to themselves.

Fun topic how were some of the stuff or how did some bring it to light with their significant other or friend? To practice this fine art many of us are not ashamed of. I feel this was something i always found fun that she found out on her own. Also tacky to tell them. At least for me, most girls i dated or attempted to, i always would make it somewhat obvious by touching their back alot. It's safe and non evasive. During hugs when a bit closer i would push my hand up their shirt to feel their skin on their back. And oh man, running your fingers up their spine slowly up each bump. Some girls even lingered longer and rested their head on your shoulder. One girl was like, "wow a free back massage?"  Online shopping is a perk too, when your girlfriend always gets something that showcases her back such as backless clothes or dresses, or even a necklace that dangles down her spine, is awesome subtle key stuff i do. To get her to know.

Of course they were some strike outs, and some girls will pull away, or you will change your direction if you linger on their backs so long and they want you to move. So interesting topic to see others methods of approach.

Go in guns blazing, or covert and let her in slowly. Hopefully nobody finds these questions annoying, just doing my part for some activity to talk about backs and spines.

Bergdog33

This is a great topic and one that I've struggled with myself in regards to dating.  My problem is that I'm usually too up-front about it and scare them away. But some women I've dated were ok with it or even into it. I do think I would've had better outcomes bringing it up gradually with the majority of girls though.  Before they really know that they like you, they tend to be cautious about sex as it is, let alone new/unknown fetishes. Particularly one as rare as ours.

Bergdog33

And one of the reasons why I'm upfront is 1) it's not always obvious if they have a prominent spine (which is why i would sometimes ask)  2) it's honestly fun to ask, to me. And 3) i tell myself that I need to know early on that they're ok with it so that i don't end up wasting eachothers time.  These are all just things that I tell myself though.  It isn't logical or particularly effective in most cases, and I'm fully aware of that. It's something I'm trying to work on.  I have no shame whatsoever in revealing this to chicks. Just dudes, tbh.  But i realize that it's better to be patient, let her know gradually as the relationship develops and realize that most girls that I'm attracted to in the first place tend to have nice spines.  Part of why i would seek out webcam porn in the past is to fulfill this fetish without feeling the need to bring it up to girls I date.  This can be rather expensive and potentially desensitize my brain for actual sex though. It's one of those things I'm really trying to moderate. This site helps a ton.

Death Dealer

Quote from: Bergdog33 on October 14, 2021, 08:36:03 PM
And one of the reasons why I'm upfront is 1) it's not always obvious if they have a prominent spine (which is why i would sometimes ask)  2) it's honestly fun to ask, to me. And 3) i tell myself that I need to know early on that they're ok with it so that i don't end up wasting eachothers time.  These are all just things that I tell myself though.  It isn't logical or particularly effective in most cases, and I'm fully aware of that. It's something I'm trying to work on.  I have no shame whatsoever in revealing this to chicks. Just dudes, tbh.  But i realize that it's better to be patient, let her know gradually as the relationship develops and realize that most girls that I'm attracted to in the first place tend to have nice spines.  Part of why i would seek out webcam porn in the past is to fulfill this fetish without feeling the need to bring it up to girls I date.  This can be rather expensive and potentially desensitize my brain for actual sex though. It's one of those things I'm really trying to moderate. This site helps a ton.

This site is probably first i've seen where everyone can talk about this openly. Most our friends in the real world don't even know, or understand. I have no problem letting girls in on this. I can careless if guys knew or not, seeing it will never concern them. But its funny can walk up to a girl and say nice legs, nice ass, or nice tits etc etc and she's heard it all before.

The one guy imagine walks up and says "you got a nice spine" why being blunt sometimes is awkward LOL...imagine her face she will stand there be like "did you just say, nice spine" "what are you like a Predator or some shit, and collect spines HAHA"

I always found it more fun to hint them by actions and stuff, and see how they react, at the same time you get to check out their backs and see if they have a prominent spine at the same time...or not and most hot chicks if usually do

rennybumps

It's one of the worst parts of this fetish I think. It's almost impossible to really get a sure bet ahead of time if it's something a girl would be okay with.

My ex figured it out because we were at a party when we met and when she kept finding ways to keep her hand on me that night, there wasn't any reason to hold back. I just kept rubbing her spine every chance I got.

Another girl just noticed enough early on that she made a comment about wearing a backless shirt to the next thing we planned, saying something like "I know you'll like that"

Luckily only one girl really seemed not to like it and that only lasted a few days. aside from the obvious, she also made out with some other guy at the same party and it clearly wasn't going to work. But every time I say it, it still feels like a risk so I started to purposely try to either bring it up early if it feels right, or just be really obvious if I think she's really into me.

But a lot of times, she notices either way so I probably overthink all that.

I've never shared this with other dudes either. Most assume I'm looking at a girl's ass and there's no real reason to tell them otherwise.

Death Dealer

Quote from: rennybumps on October 15, 2021, 05:22:07 AM


Another girl just noticed enough early on that she made a comment about wearing a backless shirt to the next thing we planned, saying something like "I know you'll like that"

I've never shared this with other dudes either. Most assume I'm looking at a girl's ass and there's no real reason to tell them otherwise.

Nice, i always find it more fun that way when she finds out and says something, "i know this is what you like", or "I know you'll like this"

one girl i dated had jacket on that was shorter in the back, and longer in the front, cropped design, showcased her lower back, she leaned forward on a counter and when she saw me looking, as her spine started protruding, she looked back and smirked...without hesitation i put my hand right where she wanted it

as for dudes not getting it, they are simple minded and not being able to step outside the box of cookie cutter T&A mentality