Spines during sex

Started by Bergdog33, January 04, 2021, 08:46:20 AM

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Bergdog33

Hi, I'm new to the forum but I've been checking out the site for quite a few months now. Glad to know I'm not alone on this fetish/kink. Anyways, some background: I've enjoyed the look of a woman's lower spine since as young as I can remember. Even as a little kid, i remember that anytime i saw a woman bend over, whether at the beach or pool or just seeing her shirt slide up, if i saw the bumps from her spine i was just mesmerized. I didn't know WHY i liked it...i just did.  When i grew older and hit puberty, it eventually became a legit fetish.  Now, when it comes to sex, it took me a little while to figure out exactly how I like enjoying the spine (aside from just rubbing it).  I knew i liked regular intercourse, and would generall just rub the spine during vaginal sex, but also knew there HAD to be more regarding this fetish. Before I get more into it, if this topic is TMI or breaks any rules then that is totally fine. But if not, what are some ways that you like to enjoy  the spine during sex? 

DaveSands

keeping your hand there is probably the "normal" way to go especially since it seems normal either way.

I've heard of guys wanting to rub the shaft against it but still haven't really tried that or felt like there was a good time to try it yet.

With my 3rd gf, who used to randomly give me handjobs in college, I found out there was a specific position she would bend over next to me during it and I'd be sort of going back and forth between rubbing it up and down and sort of holding it. That actually really put those HJs over for me  personally.

Bergdog33

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Quote from: DaveSands on January 04, 2021, 06:50:02 PM
keeping your hand there is probably the "normal" way to go especially since it seems normal either way.

I've heard of guys wanting to rub the shaft against it but still haven't really tried that or felt like there was a good time to try it yet.

With my 3rd gf, who used to randomly give me handjobs in college, I found out there was a specific position she would bend over next to me during it and I'd be sort of going back and forth between rubbing it up and down and sort of holding it. That actually really put those HJs over for me  personally.


^ oh wow..that's actually a good idea (the hand jobs in that position). I have tried BJs in that position and they are awesome.  It's funny you mentioned guys wanting to rub the shaft against it because that's exactly what I started fantasizing about as early as high school, when I was still a virgin and masterbating for the first time.  My first time trying that, I was 20 (am currently 33) and it was unfortunately disappointing, in that i couldn't make it work the way i fantasized.  But luckily i enjoyed normal vaginal intercourse when i lost my virginity that same time. More luckily, i eventually did figure out how to enjoy it later on a couple years later...

Randomly, a super open minded girl that i was talking to on tinder invited me over to try it out. When I started, I did the typical position that i had previously tried for it:  i had her sitting near the edge of her bed, facing the center with her back to the edge, and hugging her knees. Then I'd stand behind her, press the underside of my shaft up against lower spine and kind of thrust up and down.  This time though, she handed me a bottle of lube and said "have fun".  And it seriously made all the difference after i applied that first. Prior to that, it had only worked once - on a girl with a very prominent spine and very smooth skin.  But others I had tried it with no luck, so just kind of shrugged it off as foreplay for normal sex stuff.  So from that point on, I started using lube and mainly that position. I also figured out that you have to kind of guide it with your hands, to stay "on target" so to speak.  I once did it with a girl doing the plow pose from yoga, which was a lot of fun. Sometimes with short girls I just have them bend over while standing and am able to glide right onto their spine from there. 

I do see the need to wait on that though.  They aren't always turned on by it so much, so it can be seen as somewhat one sided.  That and some are weirded out by it.  But i have had a couple girls who genuinely enjoyed it or were even turned on.

One thing I've also experienced is some girls spines don't feel as good as you'd think when doing that. Others are amazing. A lot of it has to do with their skin tone/softness/smoothness along the spine.   I think a lot of people who misunderstand our fetish think that we're into the literal spine when really it's the skin over the landmarks that the spine forms that we're truly into.  Sort of like how it's the exterior of the ass men love...not the actual gluteus. Lol. That's the analogy I use whenever that comes up.

DaveSands

That's actually a great analogy. It's always hard to explain but I also noticed it's the smooth skin and warmth there that does it for me but also the shape.

jack_skel

The way it feels is definitely part of it for me but honestly I hadn't felt one yet until I was in my late teens so it started off entirely as a visual turn on. I didn't understand it as a fetish until my mid teens, of course, but I always knew seeing a girl's spine did it for me for as long as I remember.

By the time I managed to actually date a girl, I remember actually struggling a bit to equate the feeling of it with the visual I saw and I guess the idea in my head of what it was supposed to feel like.

I definitely wasn't disappointed the first time I felt a girl's spine obviously, and I know that warmth/smooth thing really helps too. But there was a bit of getting used to, going from it being entirely visual to actually something I had to find ways to touch to really get the most out of it.

I mean it's almost like I had to experiment to see how I could touch it in a way that really equated to how I thought of it in my head.

Bergdog33

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Quote from: jack_skel on January 04, 2021, 10:15:38 PM
The way it feels is definitely part of it for me but honestly I hadn't felt one yet until I was in my late teens so it started off entirely as a visual turn on. I didn't understand it as a fetish until my mid teens, of course, but I always knew seeing a girl's spine did it for me for as long as I remember.

By the time I managed to actually date a girl, I remember actually struggling a bit to equate the feeling of it with the visual I saw and I guess the idea in my head of what it was supposed to feel like.

I definitely wasn't disappointed the first time I felt a girl's spine obviously, and I know that warmth/smooth thing really helps too. But there was a bit of getting used to, going from it being entirely visual to actually something I had to find ways to touch to really get the most out of it.

I mean it's almost like I had to experiment to see how I could touch it in a way that really equated to how I thought of it in my head.

^ i can definitely relate to that struggle of trying to experiment how to enjoy it via touch, the way it's enjoyed from a purely visual perspective.  Like, when casually cuddling i can enjoy just rubbing it just fine, but during sex is when i had to explore that more.  And for me honestly the hands feel it better than my shaft does.  Which is kind of interesting.  But i can make it work both ways (as i explained).   

jack_skel

I actually tried licking my ex's spine once. The idea of doing it was definitely better than the actual experience at least in my opinion. Since then it's mostly been different ways of grabbing and stroking the spine during sex.

But yeah, the cuddling thing - I actually had the thought once that we're probably lucky it's one of the few fetishes you can subtly get away with enjoying in public casually without it drawing much attention from other people to a degree.

Bergdog33

Yeah exactly..it's subtle, especially if it's one of the first dates with a girl and she doesn't know about it yet and just thinks you're being affectionate. Lol. 

Yeah, licking doesn't do much for me either. One time a girl told me to try tracing it with the tip of my nose which was surprisingly fun.  But for me nothing beats the shaft (on a preferably well defined spine) or just caressing it with my hands during various sex positions or BJs.

jack_skel

One of my ex's had the kind that only showed much in the bottom, like starting right around the bra strap and below, I could see and feel every bump even when she just bends over the tinest bit. And when she stood up straight, even when you just barely see it, you could definitely feel every bump. The day we met, I actually noticed her spine through her shirt when she stopped to fix something on her shoes. (Weirdest thing was she actually had a bit of a pot belly at the time, but her spine was the kind where you could see and feel the gaps between the vertebrae.)

She found this top that was almost like a loose-fitting corset but was open in the lower back (like only the bra strap area wrapped around). So the whole time we were out once with her wearing it, she knew my hand would find its way to her lower back all day and it also looked so neutral/innocent to everyone else.

Kinda funny how almost no other fetishes could work like that in public settings or around others who don't know about it.

DaveSands

I definitely had to experiment too even with hand positions.. like trying out if my thumb or fingers would be rubbing her spine more. Almost like i was looking for a way to feel it as much as possible.

Death Dealer

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Reading some of the stuff above

(side note) so glad they are people here that actually have the same mentality, and not an oddity talking about backs

most not into this stuff will read this and be all like, what the hell is wrong with you people?

Anyways, I actually have tried licking and kissing girl's backs and spines. I actually like it. To be honest it is hotter thinking about about it, or seeing it on tv, or movies even though it's extremely rare. But in my experience i had one ex, and even current gf now, who loves the back kissing and licking. It's more enjoyable if receiving apparently. My current gf, sorry if this TMI. Have her on my lap riding the shaft...i would lean her forward and lick up her spine and kiss downward each spine bump down. Drives her nuts in a good way.

Laying her face down and finger tracing her back and spine or rubbing it is fun too. The kissing and licking her back is hot with her face down as well. The key secret to enjoy being the giver, put some sort of condiment on her back. Chocolate syrup, or honey, or something sweet to lick off her back...if bothered by tasting her back sweat. But either way is hot.

Bergdog33

Quote from: Death Dealer on February 18, 2021, 10:12:16 PM

My current gf, sorry if this TMI. Have her on my lap riding the shaft...i would lean her forward and lick up her spine and kiss downward each spine bump down. Drives her nuts in a good way.


^ that's pretty damn hot actually!  Gives me ideas. How tall is she relative to yourself? If you don't mind me asking.

Death Dealer

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Quote from: Bergdog33 on February 18, 2021, 10:43:43 PM


^ that's pretty damn hot actually!  Gives me ideas. How tall is she relative to yourself? If you don't mind me asking.

She's 5'7, long torso build, so her back appears endless

Bergdog33

Just bumping this to see if any newer members have any input that they're comfortable with sharing. This is a fun sub topic.

georgemac76

i see a lot of familiar stuff in this thread so far meaning things I've tried. i think for me now, it starts with some trial and error for every girl because it's always different what kind of stuff she goes for and then i just keep trying to find ways to focus on touching her spine one way or another.

definitely tried things like licking, kissing, and stroking (hands, shaft, or any other part that makes sense depending on height, position, etc)

it can be awkward before i get a chance to tell (or show) her the fetish first and she assumes I'm "normal". like one girl in college kept trying to put my hands on her chest and i kept finding ways to change positions and rub her back instead. that was back when i still wasn't very comfortable addressing it yet (feeling like it might sound too weird or gross her out or something) so that was clearly my fault in hindsight.